Working on the Relationship

Told the wife I was thinking of a trial separation afer we move next summer. I was planning to get an apartment in the new town before we buy a house anyway. I told her I was thinking of keeping it, at least for a while. Said I'd had it with her treating my wants and needs for how our lives & home were configured as unimportant. Said I hated coming come at the end of a hard day's and being treated like an intruder. I didn't want a divorce, that I wanted her to still be a part of my life, but I was at my rope's end and the only thing left that I could do was to try to put some space between us for a while. I really wanted things to work out, but I had to be willing to take a chance that they wouldn't.

It's been a month since then, and things are really different. We've both been a lot more affectionate with each other. She hasn't been using the living room (the first room when you walk into the house) as a storage locker for whatever crap she brings home. In fact, the whole house is downright presentable. We had some friends over for the Superbowl (first time in a year I'd invited another couple over) and didn't need to spend the whole weekend cleaning first. She's shown a lot more interest in my feelings and she's even gone out of her way to do nice things for me on a couple of occasions. Kind of like a marriage is supposed to be.

So I'm guardedly optimistic that it won't be necessary to leave home. If things can just continue as they've been going...